Selfishness denotes the precedence given in thought or deed to the self. - wiki
and definition from dictionary.com is
1. Devoted to or caring only for oneself, concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others
2. Characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself : selfish motives.
Everyones selfish right? 人不为己天诛地灭so..
Friends help each other because each individual enjoys helpin each other and having each other's company and so they are selfish by helpin each other so that they feel better?
( its like Ok I feel good helping you so i will help ).
yes.
and from another angle, they can become friends because they truly care for one another..
Most social welfare workers and volunteers do their part in helping others because they pity them and feel sad for them and in order to get rid of that feeling, they go and help the others and its not to really love and show care and concern for them thus they are selfish? yes.
And from another angle, there might really be people who can show love and really care for alot of people at the same time..
Someone is about to get into an accident for example an overhead metal bar is hanging precariously above someone's head people will save that someone and this is because they do not want to be traumatized by the scene for life. and its not to really show concern. so thats selfishness? yes.
however there are people who can easily get influenced to show genuine care for a person offhand.
lets say that if a limp stranger tells you another stranger is getting beaten away and you are the only one who can help but you will have to travel quite a distance to get to the scene. lets say you do go help.. This is because you do not want to feel guilty if the person dies or gets seriously injured if you could help. so this is selfishness?
well.. nobody can judge if the person is selfish or not.. only you know yourself.. sometimes a guy might say hes selfish in certain areas and this is just to maintain his ego.. in actual fact he is not..
and yet some people might say someone is not selfish at all and this is to save his own face.. yes he is selfish but only in the area of not wanting to look bad.. whereas in other aspects maybe not..
everyone is selfish that is true but does not apply to every aspect of an individual..
its all in the mind...
thats why people can only judge an act and not the person.. so its easier to say "that was a selfish act" than "he is a selfish person"
人心难测。。。 The hardest thing to do on earth is probably to read another person's mind.. and yet if you are really able to, you might go mad with the amount of thoughts that could run through a single brain at the same time..
Just some things I thought about during the sleepless nights..
JY
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